Okay, so this article is about a little pet peeve of mine. Let me start by saying that this is not an attack against parents in general (it’s not an attack, period). It’s based solely on my experiences and, unfortunately, what I’ve seen and heard among some so-called parents.
You see, we are living in a world where it seems there are still a number of people (I haven’t and can’t quantified the amount) who only want children in order to:
- Get help financially by receiving money from the state. I mean, I’m not against government aid. There are a bunch of European countries, including Sweden, Luxembourg, Belgium, and Germany that provide what is called “universal child benefits” and other income incentives for parents with one child or more. In France, where I’m from, you can get Caisse des Allocations Familiales (CAF) for parents who have a minimum of two children. No surprises here and it’s actually useful for parents that really need the help. But some aim to abuse the system by just having kids for the sake of receiving government assistance.
- Take away the pressure society places on them to make babies. You simply have kids because you have to procreate by a certain age, due to people in your surroundings dictating/expecting you to by then. Yes, there are risks the older you get but it’s better in my opinion to wait until you’re truly ready for kids before deciding to have them. Moreover, more and more people are waiting (and successfully having babies) after the expected child-bearing age society foists upon them.
- Feel fulfilled because child rearing will keep you busy. While having a child should be a fulfilling experience, I don’t believe it’s healthy to center your life on having babies to feel worthy. What about making plans to pursue, achieving goals, and acquiring experiences you can pass on to your child if and when you do have one? You’re essentially putting a lot of pressure on the shoulders of your baby if you only had one to keep you busy.
All of this pisses me off.
What about raising children to make them the best they can be to contribute to a brighter world?
Of course, I understand that your children may not always turn out as expected, despite your best efforts to instill the ‘right’ values. But that’s not what I’m writing about here. I’m talking about the honesty of the initial intention to have a baby. Also, please note that I’m not referring to unwilling pregnancies.
Let me leave you with this interesting video HOW WE ARE PROGRAMMED AT BIRTH.
I really hope more of us will take the time to try to see the bigger picture of life, instead of just looking at what is right in front of our noses. There are so many ways each of us can be helpful in our existence.
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